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Valerie;
I'm writing to you in regard to A.M.'s letter in the last issue.
My 28-year old daughter brought your column to my attention because she
felt that she could relate to A.M.'s situation. She was engaged for a year,
but two months before the wedding her fiancé called the whole thing off. He
told her that he just realized they weren't right for each other. My
daughter blamed herself. It seemed like she felt that it was all her fault.
It broke my heart to see her this way, but I wasn't sure what to say to
her. I agree with your idea that we should look for a positive way to
overcome our pain in times of separation. I know my daughter was able to
benefit from reading your comments on A.M.'s letter. Thank you for
providing us with this kind of inspiration. Keep up the good work!
Midland
Thank you for your words or encouragement. Unfortunately, we are unable to
print every compliment & comment on A.M.'s letter. However, I would
personally like to thank everyone who wrote in. I appreciate the enthusiasm!
The following was e-mailed to me by an anonymous writer.
Time. We have obligations, meetings, deadlinesSmost of us run from one
thing to the next and meanwhile wonder - where did all the time go?
We wake up and we're on the go again. Running, hurtling past precious
seconds, minutes, hours, even years. We wonder if we'll spend our entire
lives this waySbut the thought passes quickly because we don't have time to
think about it. We can see through the blur and watch life from a distance,
on lunch break, in the car, or before we fall asleep. We're seized by the
powerful knowledge that our children are growing up, our parents and
grandparents are getting older. Then one day Time suddenly stops.
You see clearly in the absence of Time. Free, untroubled. You're old, but
feel young again. Time doesn't matter like it used to. You look in the
mirror and touch the lines on your face, and your reflection smiles back at
you.
The Gift of Time
Time is a strange complexity. While it may seem that time takes more from
us than it gives, time is equally the essence of life itself.
Most of us have been encouraged to 'use time wisely'. But what does this
mean? Getting a good education? Providing for family? Working? Society's
definition suggests this, yet many people have done these things and still
time evades them.
Thomas Moore's Care of the Soul states that finding time may require
"something as simple as pausing. A common symptom of modern life is that
there is no time for thought, or even for letting the impressions of the
day sink in."
The song Time In A Bottle by Jim Croce makes reference toward this point
as well, "there never seems to be enough time to do the things you want to
do, once you find them."
Can fulfillment of time be found through doing things we want to do? It has
been said that happiness comes not from doing what we like to do, rather
from liking what we have to do. Therefore, finding balance is perhaps the
key. By making time for ourselves, we are able to grasp the simple moments
throughout the day. Remember that simplicity will enrich all larger aspects
of life.
The Ancient Rhyme of Myth
In Norse myth, the goddess Hel represents inner beauty. Her name,
derived from the word Helkappe (magic mask), is a symbol of the invisible
quality that presides over the unseen Divine.
Hel's Tip: Look beyond what is seen to discover the influence of the unseen
Divine.
Dear Valerie;
The more credit card bills accumulate, the more I charge. It's
out-of-control and my bills are more than what I can afford to pay. Any
advice on how to stop charging?
ChargeCrazy
Dear ChargeCrazy;
You are allowing yourself to pay a high price for actions which you
CAN control. Stop chargingSNOW! Place your credit cards somewhere out of
reach. If you don't carry them with you, you'll be less likely to charge.
Think about the potential consequences (repossessions, bankruptcy). Keep
yourself occupied because then you won't have time to think about shopping.
Call a friend, read a bookSresist the urge to shop.
Valerie
If you have an everyday 'bother' or 'trouble' you would like to share with
Valerie, whatever your age or problem, write or e-mail her at:
Tavia7@webtv.net or care of Review Magazine, 318 S. Hamilton St., Saginaw,
MI 48602.
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